If we are single, we tend to assume that the problem must lie with us not having found ‘the right person’. But perhaps reality is a little more complicated: we might be single because we are, in certain ways we need to understand, difficult to love.
The idea that one is in many ways an extremely difficult person to be in a relationship with may sound rather improbable and even at points offensive. Yet fully understanding and readily and graciously admitting to this possibility might be the surest way of making sure one is an endurable proposition over the long-term.
There are few people more deeply insufferable than those who don’t, at regular intervals, suspect they might be so…”